There are times that people come into your lives and you’re not ever really sure what for or how long they are going to be there. My choice to live as a single mother requires me to make sure my children understand the just a general rule of life, people come and people go. More often than not, I think they get that and deal with it better than I do. There have been a few scenarios that have happened recently where timing certainly wasn’t on my side. People coming in my life. People leaving it. Some by choice, some not, and some out of necessity. I am a control freak to a certain degree. I don’t appreciate it or like it very much when the universe puts uncontrollable events in my life that I just have to deal with and resign myself to. But that’s life right? I know you can’t control everything. I’m not naive of course. You can’t control people’s actions, reactions, opinions, words…nor can you control how they affect you and the decisions you make. Sometimes you just do what you have to do to avoid embarrassment, ridicule, and basically situations that you know are possibly going to make you nuts! Or sometimes you just deal with what you’ve been given and live in the now. And your happiness with the situation lies in what you have “for now” with the hopes that one of these days, it will all make a little more sense and other people’s reactions won’t matter quite so much.
So, here’s to what it is….for now:)
Bella, you are wise beyond your years. Wisdom usually comes to us via two routes, time or experience. In this case it appears that experience is the culprit. It is what it is. With time these experiences will soften and leave only the wisdom gained. Stay the course.
Frank Schiavi | 10/07/2009 07:05 PM | Link
hello, it’s me, Bob Invisible on deviantART, first of all, that photo of you on your blog is just absolutely gorgeous, as for your “pensées”, yes, you’re right, people’s behavior can sometimes be a hard thing to deal with, especially when you have children and they’re affected by it, but like i used to say to my kids when they were young and i now repeat it to my young one who’s living with me: people can make you mad or angry or drive you nuts or get you all upset, but in the end you’re the boss of your emotions, you’re the one who ultimately has control over your own life and who decides how you’re gonna live it, anyway, my dear, your site is beautiful and it is now in my speed dial, yes ma’am
Jean Chicoine | 10/07/2009 07:45 PM | Link
I’m not sure where I fit – whether we split by choice or necessity – but I can tell you from the bottom of my heart that I loved every second we were together. I would not change a thing, and I have no regrets. And now I’m fortunate to still have you in my life as a friend. I hope that we can continue being there for one another as the years roll on. Love you B!
Vaughn D. Taylor | 10/07/2009 07:54 PM | Link
Bella, We’ve known each other for quite some time now.Both of us single mothers.You’re doing a great job with the cards you have been dealt..You have a great head on your shoulders and a passion for life.Keep up the good work and keep moving forward.Love-Alise
Alise | 10/11/2009 02:50 PM | Link